Life Lessons Lately



Don't expect anything from anyone
I don't mean this in a woe is me kind of a way. I mean this in the sense that sometimes you just have to do things on your own/for yourself. I also mean that just because you do something for someone else, does not mean they will return the favor. Which leads me to the next one...

Let it go
Let go of what you can't change. Sleep on it. Write your feelings out. But really, just let it go. Chances are it isn't worth your peace of mind. However, if you can't let it go...

Confront with compassion
I dread confrontation of any kind. But sometimes people might not realize that their actions/words are bothering you (or maybe they do). If it's something you just can't get over, you owe it to yourself to confront the person or issue or whatever it may be. When you are going to make a confrontation use kindness and compassion.  

Be the bigger person
The next time you're expected to show up an event or a commitment of some sort and you really don't want to go, stop and ask yourself if skipping out will mean more to you than it would mean to the other person for you to show up. There are times we'd all rather be at home with a good book or a Netflix marathon, but chances are it means more to go visit your in-laws for the evening or stop by your co-workers birthday party even if it's the last thing you feel like doing. And you'll probably feel better afterward. 

Take time for yourself
We live in a society that is wired to think that there's something wrong with you if you're not busy 24/7. Have a lazy day (or two) without feeling guilty about it. It really is good for the soul. 

Cherish the mornings
If you ask anyone who knew me in high-school or college, they will tell you I am not a morning person. With age I've grown to appreciate and be so thankful each and every morning. Four hours of sleep the night before? Never pleasant. But how blessed are we to wake up and have another day ahead of us? 

Also...smile often, write more snail mail, and pay it forward. 

I'm usually not a big fan of how-to posts that tell you how you should be living, but I wanted to share these things because they've been on my mind lately. Do you agree or disagree? What are some "life lessons" you've learned lately? That's the thing about getting older... you sure to learn a lot as you go! 

30 comments

  1. Oh I could not agree more with all these points!! Letting things go is so hard - but you gotta start fresh every day!! I am the worlds worst actress meaning I can't hide my disgust, distaste or anything that someone is doing that bothers me in the slightest so I really need to work on confronting with compassion - although if i'm confronting someone it's because they seriously messed up!! haha

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  2. I totally just sang the Let it go song from Frozen when I read that. But seriously I agree with all these and this is a great reminder! I'm glad to see "Take time for yourself" on here. I hate that people glorify being so busy. Sometimes you just got to have some down time!

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  3. These are great! I really needed to hear the "let it go" one this week...something happened to me this week that's out my control and it has been extremely frustrating. But there's nothing more I can do about it, so I have to let it go and move on.

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart

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  4. These are all great to remember and definitely things I've also learned as I've gotten older. Letting go is for sure one of the best. I've also had to let go of some negative friendships lately. Life is too short to complain about someone who isn't going to change and doesn't look out for your best interest, so good bye!

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  5. This is a very well-written post. Kudos to you! I agree with you on all these, especially taking time for ourselves. I feel so guilty on days when I simply don't feel well or am tired and therefore don't get as much accomplished. I need to learn to just roll with it!

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  6. um yes to all of these. i have finally realised that just because i do something for someone, or treat them a certain way doesnt mean i will get anything in return. and likewise, just because you 'think' you've done something for me, doesnt mean i owe you. eg. my mil bought my cat a toy and then asked us to dog sit for 2 weeks and we couldnt and she got mad and brought up the cat toy. i was like, really?

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  7. I love what you said about cherishing the mornings. Simply beautiful. I've been learning to treasure my mornings and my morning routine lately. It's been one of my favorite parts of the day. And I think I'm going to send some snail mail today, too! I hope you have a great rest of the week! Stay beautiful, gina

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  8. Loved this! These are all so true- my favorite was about being the bigger person and showing up even when you don't want to sometimes. There a lot of things that I'm not super excited about doing and would rather be at home but I always try and put myself in the person's shoes and think how disappointed I would be if someone chose to watch TV over being with me. It's a good perspective but that being said, I think they are occassional nights that you just have to say "no" to everything and be lazy! We all need that sometimes!

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  9. "Let it go" is probably the hardest for me. Great list! Going with take time for yourself, we're trying to also take time for "ourselves" minus no technology - also tricky ha but it's a work in progress!

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  10. So beautifully put! I'm definitely not a morning person either and I'm usually in such a rush, but lately I've been taking an extra five minutes to sit outside with my breakfast and really take it all in. It's helped me start my day on a good note.

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  11. Great post girl, I especially love Be the Bigger Person. It's something I've definitely thought about a lot lately. I've been invited to so many things and so often I don't want to go, but when I think about how important it is to them or reverse it and think if it was my occasion, I totally snap out of that! I'm always so happy I went :) Taking time for myself and cherishing the mornings are 2 things I've been doing more of lately, its seriously changed my life!

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  12. I love these, especially taking time for yourself. Not going to lie, I definitely started singing that song from Frozen when I read "Let It Go."

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  13. These are great.
    I've tried to learn to give grace... when you think people mean something negative... give grace. Maybe they're having a bad day - give another chance.

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  14. I have to admit "smile often, write more snail mail and pay it forward" is my favorite part of all this advice!

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  15. Love this Carly! I think it's great to remind ourselves and others how to lead a better life and in turn be happier. I know that I appreciate the reminder :)

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  16. I loved this and agree 100%! I agree with Kate the snail mail and smiling was my favorite part...also the "don't expect anything from anyone" people are almost wired to let others down and if you don't get that you're constantly going to feel let down. It's a sad place to be. THanks for sharing!

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  17. These are all great! I love mornings for that reason. I think 7am is my favorite time of day and I love when I'm able to spend that time appreciating the day ahead of me.

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  18. I love your life lessons and am happy you shared them!! Many of those are difficult to live out, but most recently taking time for myself and allowing myself to have lazy days hasn't been easy. Why do we put that pressure on ourselves & others! This is exactly why I'm slowing down this summer & savoring the days.

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  19. I love this post! and I definitely agree with everything you hit on. What a point you made about being the bigger person, sometimes, what seems like nothing to us, means everything to our loved ones. But, alas, taking time to ourselves is just as important so I am glad you followed up with that. :)

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  20. Time for yourself is HUGE. I've always needed a lot of it.

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  21. Very inspirational - I agree with everything you wrote! I think that living in a city like DC where everyone is so ambitious to the point that they're outright cold to others has made me a bit jaded sometimes but reading this post (especially the part about confronting others with compassion) made me remember that I'm not alone in my frustrations and sometimes a bit of kindness can go a long way (even in DC). Thank you so much for writing this!

    Also I fixed the no-reply issue with my commenting. Not sure why it was happening but I am pretty sure it's resolved now. Thank you for letting me know and taking time to email a reply to my comments - I can't tell you how much I appreciate it! :]

    xo Deborah
    Coffee, Prose, and Pretty Clothes

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  22. Cherish the mornings, yes! Such good advice. I always appreciate sleeping in, but love the mornings I wake up bright and early and get things accomplished. :) xox

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  23. These are such great lessons. I could definitely use a few of these this week - it's been especially crazy.

    Sarah
    aroseinthecity0.blogspot.com

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  24. This was so great! Awesome points! I loved let it go.. I can easily get caught up on things and have a hard time letting things go.. Or letting my mood/anger go.. I'm working on it!

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  25. I always find that my whole day is better if I get up and enjoy and accomplish something in the morning, no matter how tired I am! x

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  26. I have definitely learned to cherish the mornings since having my daughter. I try to get up before her to have some quiet time to read and sip my coffee. It has really helped me start the day off on a good foot.
    I really struggle with letting things go, but it's on my list of things to work on!
    Great list Carly!

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  27. Wonderful post and great lessons... Cherish the mornings - I need to work on this one!!! :) :)

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  28. All very great points. The expectations is really hard from me. I expect people to be kinder and nicer and sometimes they just aren't, such is life. Taking time for ourselves is so important.

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  29. Definietly cherish the moments.. My boyfriends dad passed away over this past weekend. I haven't blogged once this past week just because I have been taking in as much time with his family, especially his nephews from out of town, as possible. My times been spent in the moment of what we've been doing as well as remembering the moments/times with his dad. - I also like your tip at the end of pay it forward. <3

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  30. Such great life lessons Carly. You definitely hit the nail on the head with this one. Isn't interesting how sometimes it takes us a while to learn a lesson for good?

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